Maybe You Shouldn’t Ask This Person Questions: How to Approach Toxic Relationships

Even as someone with dead parents who’s always reminding you that life is short, I still don’t think you should trade your own peace in order to have a relationship with someone toxic. I believe in working through issues and recognizing our life minutes as precious; in forging connections and also in having fierce boundaries.

Trust the Next Step: How Each Part of Our Path is Connected

When I started writing online five years ago, I talked a lot about life purpose and finding the right career. My focus as a coach was helping people to find work that lit them up, and then helping them be brave enough to think they deserved to do it. But I’ve changed a lot in these past five years. I don’t really talk about these things anymore because I am no longer sure how I feel about them. I have been busy unpacking how capitalism, patriarchy, and the conditioning of hustle culture infiltrated how I thought about work, meaning, and “life purpose.” It’s a lot of unlearning. It’s been humbling. But there’s one thing that’s clear as I look in the rearview mirror…

How Would You Treat Yourself Differently If Everything Mattered?

How would you treat yourself differently if you knew that it all mattered? That there’s a point to all of it, and it’s a sacred one that only you can carry out? Here’s how I’m answering that question and reckoning with my own confusion.

What Is True for You? How to Live the Questions When Life is Uncertain

Today I met with my mentor and shared how sad I’ve been lately. The state of the world, my own creeping depression, and then the unexpected loss of a friend last week…they’ve culminated into a giant inner emptiness. What am I even doing here? What are any of us doing? What actually matters? When we don’t have answers, it’s time to live the questions. Here’s one way to do that.

The Questions I Would Have Asked My Dad - How to Live in the Messy Middle of Life

My dad left our family when I was a baby, and when he reappeared in my twenties (only to die soon later) I didn’t ask him any questions. Here are the things I would ask if given a do-over.

Lessons From Regret: Do It Anyway (A Poem)

In the months before my mom died she fell in love with a poem. This poem was called “Do It Anyway.” She asked if I would find a way to paint it up on her bedroom wall, and I told her that I would. I thought it sounded nice and totally planned on it, but of course life was busy…and I didn’t get to it. This was one of the many things that haunted me after her death. Here’s how I moved past this regret and remind myself to “do it anyway.”

Questions You'll Wish You Asked: New Year’s 2022 Edition

Here are some questions to ask as the year winds down. Pick a few to journal out, ask them tonight at the dinner table, or put them in your back pocket for later reflection.

Allow them to reveal layers of yourself, provide clarity, and help you to hone in on what’s most important as you cross the threshold of a new year.

Why I Keep Talking About the Journals (Grief, Thought Work, & Ego versus Truth)

“She’s capitalizing on her mom’s death.”

“Why is she talking about these journals so much?”

“If these journals are so important, why is she even charging for them? Shouldn’t important things people need be free?”

I’ve heard everything you see above as I’ve marketed the Questions You’ll Wish You Asked journals in the last few weeks.

Why do I let someone talk to me like that, you ask?