I booked a photoshoot where I stepped into the most empowering version of my story. But the most transformative work I’ve done - the work that’s actually shifted how I live- has happened within. It’s come through identifying and healing the mother wound, an inheritance carried by all women, whether or not we’re mothers ourselves. Which is why I’m holding a workshop on this May 4th. Join me.
Introducing the Questions You'll Wish You Asked: Conversation Starting Deck for Mothers and Children
I made something I’ve been thinking about for years: a deck of conversation starting cards for mothers and children, inspired by (and a companion to) the Questions You’ll Wish You Asked journals. It’s full of the best questions in the journals, as well as some new and updated ones (because I’ve learned a lot from your messages in the past five years.) Cards to spark conversations of healing, understanding, and connection…another path in to “Rumi’s field.”
How Are You Taking Care of Yourself This Election Week? (Because We’re All a Little Anxious)
How I Pitched Myself for a Screenwriting Job (Without Prior Experience)
A few months ago, I met a filmmaker at a kids' birthday party in San Francisco. When he found out I was a writer, he asked for my contact info, saying, "I figure you must know other writers." He mentioned that he often needed help with screenwriting and asked if I could recommend someone to assist with character development, plot structure, and brainstorming script solutions over Zoom. A few weeks later, he reached out again, looking for help with his latest screenplay. As I read the message, a wild idea crossed my mind...
Seven Tools That Kept Me Sober: Addiction, Darkness, and Where the Light Gets In
Twelve years ago today I got sober. I was 27 years old. I’d love to say I chose to get sober on this day, as if in one moment I finally had the wherewithal to make a different choice than I’d been making for so long. It’s that moment of choice that so many people ask about when their loved one is struggling with addiction - what was it for you? How did things finally change? What can I do?
Caring for Our Inner Baby: How to Get Through Tough Times
We all come into this world helpless, unable to control much, and so reliant on others to survive….but with an unconscious trust and desire for those needs to be met. We cried when we needed to, we ate, we reached out for touch, to be held. And when life has brought us to our knees, when difficulty persists and we have no idea what the future holds, a simple question can get us through:
What would a baby need right now?
What is Shadow Work and Why Do it? Plus Tracy Chapman, IFS, and Writing Prompts for the Crescent Moon
Carl Jung’s naming of the “shadow” and how to actually do the work, the internet rediscovers Tracy Chapman at the Grammys but it’s her mind-blowing 1988 performance that’ll change you, writing prompts for the crescent moon, and more about Internal Family Systems, or "IFS": a therapeutic modality that you might not know about but definitely should.
Can we ambitious and peaceful?
How Choosing a Word for the Year Changes Your Life
There's a really helpful and simple practice for creating the year that you want: you choose a word to center. This word could be a feeling, type of experience, even a color – it just needs to nudge something within you. (If you already do this, I have one more tip for you below - a way to harness the magic in your word.)
Questions to Ask During the Holidays
Even when you’re committed to a minimalist season, there’s so much pressure during the holidays.
Our brains can come up with frantic questions to munch on (Am I doing enough? Can I afford this? Who am I forgetting?) but there are better questions to ask - ones to help you sort the outer noise from the inner calm.
Sit in the bath and ponder these, write a few out in your journal, or chat them out with someone you love. May they anchor and calm you to truly enjoy the beauty of this season.